Don’t Think You Can Become Someone Who Makes Their Bed Every Day? These Therapists Say Otherwise
Are you a diligent bed-maker or more of a “roll out of bed and don’t worry about it” type? Either way, your habits might reflect something about who you are as a person.
In honor of National Make Your Bed Day on Sept. 11, we spoke with experts about an important question: Are some personalities more prone to make their beds than others? And how can those of us who aren’t natural bed-makers make a routine of it?
The Benefits of Making Your Bed
The first thing psychology experts agree upon is that a daily habit of making your bed can play a big role in your wellness. For one thing, there’s evidence that having an organized bedroom environment can enhance sleep quality, and a neat bed specifically can help create positive feelings about bedtime.
“When the bed is clean, tidy, and attractive, it signals peacefulness and escape as you get into it, whereas a messy bed feels more chaotic and less like a refuge,” says Janet Kennedy, sleep psychologist and specialist for Leesa mattresses.
While the evidence in favor of bed-making is pretty clear, not everyone is wired to seek that feeling of orderliness. Those who are programmed for making the bed typically tend to be neater people in general. Some people are very regimented in life, or are naturally very neat, and this may be reflected in their morning rituals, according to Saba Harouni Lurie, LMFT, ATR-BC, owner and founder of Take Root Therapy. “Other folks may not be as specific about their morning tasks, and making their beds in the morning may not be as much of a priority to them,” she says.
How to Start a Habit of Making Your Bed
If you want to reap the benefits of bed-making, it’s not too late to switch up your habits. The first step, Harouni Lurie says, is shifting your mindset from bed-making as just another task to something more powerful; it could be the push you need to start the habit of tidying up first thing in the morning. For instance, try to think about making your bed as a tangible way to take care of yourself.
“When I think about making my bed in the morning, I imagine gifting myself with a made bed when it’s time to go to sleep at night. Conceptualizing it as an act of self-care, and a way to honor my tired body that has taken such good care of me throughout the day, makes it easier for me to prioritize this task,” she says.
More practically, Kennedy recommends setting up reminders for yourself, like a daily alarm on your phone or a Post-It note on your mirror. You can also link making the bed to another behavior you engage in regularly. For example, if you sit on your bed to put on socks every morning, make the bed before you sit down.
Just don’t be discouraged if the urge to tidy up your bed doesn’t come overnight. “It can take up to three weeks to establish new habits,” says Kennedy. “Over time, the action will feel more natural and even automatic.”