9 Sex Toys for Singles and Couples to Enjoy on Valentine’s Day and Beyond

published Feb 2, 2021
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Whether you’re in a couple or riding solo this Valentine’s Day, there has never been a better time to enhance your sexual wellness. Choosing the right sex toy can be equal parts exciting and overwhelming, and just like shopping for home pieces, doing some research is key. Whether you’re shopping alone or with a partner, it’s important to ask some preliminary questions: Are you looking for a product to help one or both of you overcome a challenge, dive deeper into a kink, or explore something new? Do you want to target a specific area of the body or a particular kind of sensation? While shopping, read the descriptions and reviews thoroughly, and take note of any accessories you may need to pair with your new toy, as well as how to care for it. And lastly, before you hop into bed, make sure you and your partner are on the same page about consent. Emotional security is just as important as physical sensation. 

This may seem like a lot, but you’ll be grateful for the preparedness when it comes time to, ahem, get busy. To get things started, we’ve rounded up some toys suitable for solo and partner play for people of all genders — trust me, there’s something for everyone on this list.

Note: The industry often takes a gender-rigid approach to marketing sex toys, but I’m using anatomically correct language to be inclusive to all identities.

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Wand-style vibrators are a tried-and-true classic. Le Wand's Petite Rechargeable Massager offers a fresher, slimmer take that still packs a punch of pleasure. Ideal for travel, it has six vibration patterns, each with 10 levels of intensity, plus a flexible head to get stimulation precisely where you want it.

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If you want a multitasking toy everyone can enjoy, try the Winni Couples Ring. It’s a remote-controlled, vibrating ring with more than 25 patterns and intensities. These help people with penises last longer during intimacy, and the remote is effective up to 10 meters away to put your partner in control. Anyone can use it solo, but when worn during penetrative sex, both will reap the benefits.

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The foray into anal play can be intimidating. It’s important to train your body over time, and the Anal Training Kit & Education Set from b-Vibe has everything you need to get acquainted with anal stimulation. This seven-piece set includes a gender-inclusive guide to anal play, three butt plugs of varying sizes (including one vibrating plug), an anal enema, a lube launcher, and a travel bag to store it all.

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The makers of this toy, a gender-inclusive company called Unbound, consider it “the dildo of the future.” Pretty enough to leave out on your nightstand (if you dare!), it has a curved base that's suitable for vaginal or anal penetration, and it’s non-porous, hypoallergenic, and even dishwasher safe. The glass composition makes it easy to sanitize, and because there’s no silicone or batteries involved, it won’t break down over time. Submerge it in warm water to bring it to your body temperature, or try cold water for an exciting new sensation.

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For an innovative approach to self-pleasure, look no further than the Tenga Flip Zero Electronic Massager. After lubing up, people with penises can slip inside to experience powerful, all-encompassing vibrations. Stroke the toy up and down and try all five vibration modes for the full range of sensation. Best of all, the Flip Zero is 100 percent waterproof for easy cleaning, and comes with its own stand to rest on while it dries.

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The Sona Cruise 2 is one of Lelo’s most innovative offerings. It uses patented sensonic technology for clitoral stimulation — in other words, fast-moving sonic waves for pleasure without direct contact. During normal use, the machine automatically reserves 20 percent of its power, but when pressed hard against your body, it automatically unleashes its full intensity. Don’t just take my word for it: The Sona Cruise 2 has been awarded the 2019 iF Design Award for product design, and Cosmopolitan named it the 2019 Best Sex Toy for Vulvas.

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If you’ve never experimented with restraints, these are an affordable and accessible introduction. The Cuffies are extremely user-friendly: There’s no lock and key or knot-tying involved, and they won’t leave bruises or cause pain like other types of restraints. They’re made from flexible, resilient, body-safe silicone, so it’s easy to slip in and out of them as you please. They’re also one-size-fits-all, and one reviewer noted that the Cuffies worked just as well for themself as they did for their partner with much larger hands.

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I’ve never seen a vibrator quite like the Riane S Duo Vibe. Though it was designed with couples in mind, people of all genders can enjoy it solo too. The ring at the base of the vibrator can wrap around the base of a penis, while the shaft portion stimulates vaginally or anally. Get creative with how you use this one: There are seven vibration patterns with two intensity levels each to explore, and the unique shape means the only limits for pleasure are your imagination.

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Dame Products

I know what you’re thinking: Why do I need a $95 sex pillow when my bedroom is already fully equipped? Allow me to explain. The Pillo is more than a sex pillow, and it’s made to fit in seamlessly with your existing decor. The wedge shape helps make certain sex positions more comfortable. Position it under your or your partner’s pelvis, shoulders, chest, etc., to explore new angles during intimacy and prevent strain on the neck, shoulders, or anywhere else. It has many uses beyond the bedroom (such as a lap desk or reading pillow), and the navy blue liner is removable and machine washable. Note: The Pillo is so popular that it's currently sold out everywhere, so sign up for pre-orders to be notified when it’s back in stock.