The Fail-Safe Secret To Enjoying the Weekend (And Skipping Sunday Scaries!)

How often do you get to the end of a weekend and wonder where the time went? Did you have big plans for relaxation or crossing chores off your to-do list, and somehow you accomplished neither? There’s so much pressure to have a perfect weekend, every weekend, and yet, too often the hours fly by, leaving you feeling underwhelmed and wondering where your two precious days went. 

Alexis Haselberger, a time management and productivity coach, explains that weekends can sometimes create as much stress as they’re meant to relieve. “Weekends are often fraught because people are still thinking about work, because they’re still doing work, or because they’re thinking about the fact that they’re not doing work.”

Not doing work becomes as much of a chore as doing work, but at the same time, pretending that the perfect weekend will fall magically into place is a farce. Rest and fun require planning, just like chores and errands. When it comes to enjoying your weekend, here’s the expert-approved 10-step plan for shooing away Sunday scaries every time. 

The perfect weekend looks different for everyone but, at its core, it has a balance of knocking items off your to-do list, finding time for rest, and being with family and friends if that recharges you. 

One weekend, that could mean bouncing from social plan to social plan on Friday and Saturday, then taking time Sunday for a deep clean of the house and a movie night in. Another weekend, it could mean spending Friday night in, making time for a yoga class and a long walk Saturday, then meeting a friend for coffee on Sunday. 

The ideal weekend is going to be a moving target, and that’s what it’s supposed to be. But, regardless of how you’re feeling this weekend, here are 10 steps to enjoying your weekend.

The best way to have a good weekend is to know what you want from the weekend. Rachael Chatham, LCMHC, of Whole Self Therapy, PLLC, explains, “A perfect weekend starts with clarity. If you have no idea how you want to use your time, you’re likely to find yourself with a case of the Sunday scaries and nothing to show for it, perhaps asking yourself ‘Where did the time go!?’”

She suggests getting clear about what needs to get done and then finding the time in your weekend calendar to accomplish those goals, regardless of whether they are rest, social, or to-do list-related goals.

Arriving at Sunday night and realizing you need to spend a few hours organizing your entire life schedule can drive weekend anxiety. Haselberger suggests getting ahead of it on Friday. “This way, everything on your work to-do list has a next action date of Monday or the future. And this means that it’s much more likely you’ll be able to leave work (and work anxiety) at work, and actually be present in your weekend,” says Haselberger. 

If you do leave it until Sunday night, there’s a good chance you’ve spent part of your weekend worrying about what’s on the list. Write it down on Friday and let your Monday self deal with it. 

No two people have the same social needs. You might count down the minutes until you can be with friends and family all weekend long, while your roommate might get excited about the prospect of a Saturday morning at the farmers market spent totally solo. 

Haselberger says, “We’ve all had those weekends that were so social but left us feeling so tired, and like we need a weekend after the weekend to recover. Decide in advance how much social time you want and need, and stick to it.”

Chores, life admin, and errands are usually unavoidable during the weekend but, if left unchecked, they can take up the better part of a day. 

“Most of us have life logistics stuff to get done on the weekend, like grocery shopping and cleaning. You might feel like you have more free time on the weekend if you confine the chores to a single window of time, maybe a 2-3 hour block on Saturdays,” says Haselberger. Don’t let the chores drag on — set a timer and once it goes off, you’re done.

Sitting down to do nothing is just as important as meeting a friend for brunch, but so many of us have trouble getting into a downtime mode because we feel like there are other things we should and could be doing. Haselberger suggests getting over that ‘should’ guilt by adding a timeblock to the calendar that tells you to relax and do whatever you want.

“You’ll feel a lot less guilty doing ‘whatever you want’ even if that’s binge-watching Netflix, if that’s what you’re supposed to be doing according to your calendar,” says Haselberger.

Weekends waste away when you’re not sure what to do — you end up sitting around trying to think of things to do instead of getting out there and doing the things. If you have activities on tap, it’s easier to fill a free afternoon. “Brainstorm the types of activities that ‘fill you up’ and make you feel refreshed and energized. Keep this list someplace visible and use it like a menu for how to spend that weekend time,” says Haselberger. 

Need ideas? Museum visits, exploring a new neighborhood, or trying your hand at a recipe that’s too involved for a weeknight are all good ideas to keep in the free weekend afternoon queue. 

“If I watch a movie, I try to make my next time block active: Go for a walk, unload the dishwasher, take a shower,” says Sara Lobkovich, OKR expert and consultant at Red Currant Collective. You could even do some of these at the same time. She suggests folding laundry while you watch TV. Give yourself a balance of action and rest, even if the activities at hand seem mundane.

On the weekend, you may not be getting the steps you normally reach during your commute or going to your after work fitness class. But fitness and wellness coach Gina Aliotti emphasizes that it’s important to stay active, even on the weekends. “Things come up, the weekends are filled with activities, gatherings and spontaneous social events, don’t wait to get in your workout, get in your workout first thing,” says Aliotti. Of course, your movement of choice doesn’t need to be a gym session — it can be whatever feels good, from a stroll around the block to some light stretching in bed. 

And, since a perfect weekend means feeling good, she also recommends continuing your weekday meal routine — don’t skip meals just because your daily schedule is different.

Do a Sunday unplug session to set yourself up for the week and get yourself in a calm, centered mindset. “Take time on Sunday to prepare for the week. Meal prep, set your week’s intentions and allow yourself to detox from social media a bit. Creating Sunday self-care rituals and routines will ensure you step into your week ready and excited to tackle your goals,” says Aliotti.

Remember, resting is a key piece of enjoying your weekend. “Don’t forget that something gets produced from rest, too: ease, space, and calm. Maintaining the pace of a 40-hour work week can be a real challenge, so be sure to honor your body’s need for relaxation,” says Chatham. “While you chill, you can celebrate having found the right balance and fitting it all into your weekend plans!”